Changes

Changes, big, small, good and bad they all can be hard to deal with but the outcome can be worth it

Letting the past go can be very hard but life does go on and not everything or everyone can go with you.

Whether it be changing schools gaining or losing a friend your parents getting a divorce or even your body is changing, they are all things that can make life very different sometimes a little scary and sometimes exciting, sad and the list goes on.

Dealing with these changes brings challenges that may be hard to deal with, situations which you have to get use to, get out of your old ways and into the new.

Change can be a big course of stress but you need to see change through a different light when one door closes another door opens.

You need to keep an open mind throughout change it is easy for a person to just tell you to deal with something and that it will all work out for the best, people normally say this because they have been through change before and have ways of dealing with it, sometimes they don’t understand just how crazy change can make your life until they go through it themselves.

I personally know how crazy change can be I have had my fair share or change at the end of the day it’s not all that bad things do work out in the end.

I have been through changing schools, body changes, moving house ( after 21 years in the same house) but if I list all the changes I have ever been through it would be endless, something you will learn in life, change is endless doors are always opening and closing in sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn’t but it always finds it’s way of working out.

My tip for those of you who are going through a change, try and see the light at the end of the tunnel, change is healthy and it is something you should get use to, I have found things have changed more and more as I have gotten older, even things like Christmas instead of being the little kid who can’t wait to see what Santa has brought me I watch my little sister and cousins get excited and it makes me realise how fast time goes by and how much change it brings with it.

Pimples, Pimples, Pimples

Pimples, pimples, pimples a word often heard of throughout the teen years, luckily not for all, but for the unfortunate few pimples are an often visitor, don’t freak out boys and girls your not alone and yes it is normal you have hormones on the loose who are going wild.

There are creams and washes and pills you name it they’ve got it but a lot of the products out there don’t work they either do nothing make your skin feel worse or dry it out completely.

It is hard to just say here try this it will work for sure, because there is no guarantee meaning everyone has different skin and certain things work for certain people.

Acne is a person’s enemy nobody wants it but it is not something you get to decide you get it or you don’t.

If you do get pimples here is my biggest tip for you don’t squeeze (that sounds disgusting) I am not a acne/pimple expert but I am guessing your fingers are covered in filth even if you scrub them clean there is hidden dirt that soap will not reach. Not only that but squeezing can leave you with pimple scars.

I have never suffered from acne but I have had a few pimples problems here and there like I am sure everyone has and here is what works for me, if you are a pimple sufferer it can’t hurt to give it a go.

So you know my biggest rule don’t squeeze, rule number two is after any exercise wash your face, even if it just with water and no cleanser, ok now into my daily routine or at least a routine I try to keep.

First of all a healthy diet helps keep the pimples away or at least helps, I am not saying junk isn’t allowed but all in moderation, you will feel the difference almost straight away, drinking lots of water it defiantly is something that will help you feel the difference in your skin.

Besides the healthy eating and drinking water try washing your face twice a day once when you wake up and once before you go to bed also after any exercise in saying this you don’t want to over do it.

I use clean & clear deep face cleanser but use whatever works for you, I also do a face mask once a week(it is a peel off mud mask) and use my magic pimple pen (Nivea Visage young, bye-bye spot stick) I use it for those one of every now and than pimples, it helps dry them out instead of drying out all your skin it just dries out the pimple making it disappear within a day or two.

I have never had terrible skin or even had pimples to bad but like I said I have had my days and weeks where my skin just wouldn’t agree with me and I was lucky enough to find something that works for me.

Good luck.

Being Bullied??

In my opinion, bullies are people who think they are big, mature and in charge, when really they are just well, a bully there is no better word for them.

There is no reason or excuse for bullying, whether it is, hitting, threatening or intimidating, maliciously teasing and taunting, name-calling, making sexual remarks, stealing or damaging belongings, encouraging others to reject or exclude someone or spreading rumours.

If you are being bullied your probably not feeling so great, you are feeling crappy everyday especially the days where you are being bullied, you feel as if there is nothing you can do about it.

Something you will realise later much later in life is that there is something you can so about being bullied.

No guys I’m not going to say “Tell an adult” I know that is what you hear from most adults in regards to being bullied although it is not a bad idea to tell an adult, in some cases not all but some, it can make the situation worse but there is no harm in trying this.

You may have convinced yourself that there is no solution that you can do nothing and you just have to suffer the bullying but you defiantly do not.

Try this, When you are next made fun of intimidated, bullied, completely ignore the person/s, I know what you are thinking, that I am absolutely crazy, but wait and hear me out.

When people bully their aim is usually to make you upset by it, if they see that it doesn’t affect you at all may soon they will back off.

Your aim should be to make sure you let them see you think they are completely pathetic and immature so laugh it off, let them see it doesn’t affect you (even if it does it is better they do not know it might make them back off) you could even laugh and tell them how pathetic they sound.

They are just the same as you they are human they feel happiness, sadness, scared everything you feel they feel and they are no better than you are.

Although if you are being physically bullied you can not defend yourself with words and ignoring and trying to fight back doesn’t make the situation and better for you, in this situation the best solution is to tell someone who can do something to put the madness to an end.

I hope no one out there is being bullied but I know that is just wishful thinking, so please if you are being bullied do something about it.

Surviving the rough times

You are having the worst day, week, month or going through a long rough patch,
you feel like things couldn't get worse and won't get better but trust me (from personal experience ) in time they will.

No matter what it is, whether is be, school sucks, fighting with a friend, being bullied, fighting with your family or even something as terrible as losing a loved one, it may seem to be the impossible, but eventually hard times will not be so hard

Although I can assure you it will get better, that things have a way of working out that things will not always be terrible, it does not change the fact that you may be having a rough time or that in life you will have bad times.

When you are having one of those " things suck" patches, one of the best thing you can do is to have someone to talk to, the feeling of clearing your head of all the stress just by saying it out loud rather than keeping it all bottled up is a big relief, if you have trouble talking to someone about your troubles it also helps to write it down in a letter to yourself, as silly as this may sound, it defiantly helps.

If you can figure out why it is you are having a rough time and not feeling so happy it is a good way to the path to things getting better, find a solution there is always one even when you think there is no solution to your situation, you just have to dig a little deeper, sometimes it is a matter of patients and time.

If there is something you can do about whatever the problem is than act straight away instead of sitting on the idea until it is too late or things get worse, to make this clearer and give you an idea of what I mean here is an example.

eg. You are having a fight with your best friend, you have told another person a secret she had trusted you with. Don’t just do nothing and feel sorry for yourself it will only make things worse for you and your friendship, do everything possible from saying sorry face to face if that does not work don't just give up do what ever possible to fix it.

Try to stay relaxed this is a lot easier said than done but if you can remember this when your not having the best day it will help you get through it just remind yourself it will all work out.


Rough times come and go all throughout life from the smallest things to the biggest; knowing how to deal with them is something you need to learn in life and realising that things will get better and having a way of dealing with things helps you make those times a lot easier.

Turning to suicide cutting any kind of self harm is not a solution and life is worth living it is an opportunity not a burden, when you have solutions like suicide going through your head remember this but also remember your family and friends the people who love you and care for you even if you may not think so you will see in time to come that you would be missed.

This is a great blog (http://depressedteenhi.blogspot.com) could be very helpful to you if you are feeling not so good right now you may find it helpful to make a blog and post when you are not feeling to happy.

Keep your eyes out for more posts; I'll be back with more soon.

Teen Smokers

It is a scary thought but some kids start smoking at the age of 10 and sometimes younger. If you are a teen smoker you should think before you light up another and consider this.

Not only are your lungs slowly accumulating tar but in time you will notice wrinkles and will look older than you should, being a young teen who wants to look older than he or she is, well I can see how this wouldn’t matter to you at all but, when you are 30 and look 40 you will start regretting it.

Not to mention the long term affects like shortness of breath, continuous coughing, yellow fingers and stained teeth.

Or the even more serious life threatening affects like cancer, heart disease and stroke, emphysema If you are still not scared well what can I say you should be.

Have you ever stopped and even thought why you smoke? Or how you started?
Think about it, I am almost sure I can speak on behalf of the majority of teen smokers out there when I say that you most likely started because your friends smoke or curiosity.

You are born without relying on cigarettes and without cravings. Why start now? Why put your body in the danger of life threatening affects.

Here is what 18 year old Cameron, who has recently quit smoking after 3 years.

How old were you when you first started smoking?
“I was 15”

Wow, that’s young, why did you start?
“I was at a party and my older sister offered me one, being curious I decided to try it”

How often did you smoke?
“At first just socially but that eventually turned into everyday”

Wow that is a lot of smoking and from so young, Have you noticed any improvement to your health?
“I actually have noticed, I don’t cough as much, my fingers don’t smell or my breath, and I feel healthier”

What made you stop?
“It was making me sick, I would get really light headed like I was going to pass out”

Did you find it easy to stop?
“A lot easier than I thought, I think as you get older and have been smoking for longer it get’s harder, my older sister found it really hard”

What would you say to a teen smoker or a teen that was thinking about smoking?
“Don’t do it it’s not worth it, it taste’s bad and it doesn’t do you any good”

That is what teen Cameron had to say on the topic.
I hope this opens your eye’s a bit more to see that curiosity and looking cool isn’t worth your health.

If you want the longest and healthiest life possible and you are a teen who smokes or are considering it please consider this first.

Quitting may be hard but you are doing your body a huge favour.

(http://quittingcigarettes.blogspot.com/) This is a blog by a smoker trying to quit, seems to help him through the rough times, check it out and good luck to those of you who have decided to try give quitting a go. That’s all for today but stay tuned for more.

Losing your Virginity

No matter who the guy or girl is, no matter how long you have been with them or had a major crush on for or how popular they are, don’t feel like saying yes to having sex it something you have to do.

If you are not ready and it is not something that you want to do than say no, because in 2, 3 or 5 years from now you may regret not sticking with your instincts.

If your reasons for saying yes are because you are worried that the person you are with will lose all sense of interest in you than they are simply not worth your time, chances are you are being used for sex and soon enough you will end up hating them.

Everybody’s first time experience is very different, so if one of your friends have already experienced having sex don’t think that it is how your first time will be.

What I believe determines how your first time will be are a few things, like how much you actually like the person? How well they treat you? Whether you are being used for sex? The list goes on.

If you don’t want your first time to be unenjoyable you should make sure you are doing it for the right reasons because you may feel it is fine at the time but you may soon realise after that it was a big mistake.

Try not to let your friends make you feel like it’s something you have to do to fit in,
Everyone experiences life at their own pace and not being at the same pace as your friend’s, doesn’t make you any less mature or cooler than they are, if this isn’t something you have realised already you will in years to come especially when you leave school and go your separate ways.

The person you are with may also put pressure on you to have sex, if you hear them saying things like “If you really like/love me……” or “Can I/you just go in for a second” etc. things like this are normally just said to get what they want.

You can convince yourself they really care about you but they wouldn’t put any pressure on you to have sex or do anything you are not ready if they did.

If you decide you are ready to go as far as having sex, there are some important things you should think about like, contraception because whether it is your first or 100th time you can defiantly fall pregnant.

Is this the person you want to be the person you experience this with?
Personally I think it is much better experienced with someone you love it is a different feeling all together.

If you still think you are ready and you have made your mind up than I wish you all the luck and I hope your first time can be a special and memorable time.

After reading a blog yesterday ( http://ryanepps.org/2009/09/04/304/) I noticed an interesting point of view was made, that parents impact on their child’s decision to lose their virginity?
Although I believe this has some truth and parents do have some impact on their child’s decision of when to lose their virginity I also believe children no matter what age, have a mind of their own.

what you hear from their parents sadly sometimes goes in one ear and out the other, Parents are not always right but try and be mindful of what they say even if you do not agree think about it, remember they have been through this before and may have some helpful point of views.

Stay tuned for my next post.