So you may not be pregnant and have no intention of becoming pregnant (I hope) but I am sure that was the frame of mind a lot teen mums had before falling pregnant. So this may be one of those ‘keep in the back of your mind’ articles for all you teens who are having, or thinking of having sex.
Before you judge and think “this is just another miss know it all” I just want to say I definitely don’t know it all but I will try to ease your curiosity. This entry may also be a means of helping those who may already be pregnant or have a friend who is.
From the stories I have heard, the shows I have watched and well, from pure imagination, I gather pregnancy and motherhood is a complete life changing experience. The pain and discomfort pregnancy brings is just the beginning. Being a parent is a full time job that doesn’t end when the cuteness does; it’s one of those forever things and extremely demanding. For you already pregnant girls out there, the love you will have for your child will make it all worth it.
It’s simple not always 100% but definitely the way to go, I am sure you have all heard of the pill, If you are having sex and do not want to end up pregnant you should definitely give it a go it’s really not that expensive and a bonus is you can decide when you get your periods (ask your doctor). Using a condom is better than nothing but not so trusty! If you don’t think the pill is for you and you for some reason do have sex with no protection I recommend getting the morning after pill as soon as possible after you have had unprotected sex. A bit of an in case you didn’t know, the pull out method isn’t full proof and quoting from a doctor “you will get pregnant using that method eventually” ask your doctor about pre-cum he will tell you why it makes the pull out method un-safe.
I advise those of you who have that cluckyness about you to kill the curiosity and delay the want to become a teen mum by giving Nanny/babysitting a go.
I have been a nanny for 5 years and don’t get me wrong I love kids and I love looking after them but I also love that I can hand them back at the end of the day. It will definitely give you some insight on just how demanding being a parent is. You are on your feet all day long (except for when they sleep) and don’t forget the nappy changing, crying, constant entertaining it is a definite time taker.
For those of you who have recently found out you are pregnant you are probably going through an extremely stressful patch so first things first I advise you to tell a friend because keeping something as big as that all bottled up has to be unhealthy for you and your growing baby, relying completely on your man isn’t always for the best. Don’t listen to what people say you do not no need the negativity so only tell those who you trust and a true friend will not judge you.
Telling your parents/guardian, well I am sure you are freaking out I know I would but no matter how strict or scary your parents can be, something I wish I had of thought a about a bit more is that your parents love you even if you make a really big mistake and they are really angry.
So I advise you to tell them instead of taking it into your own hands it will make it a lot easier on you as crazy as it sounds but once you get the scariness of telling them over they will be there to help you and who better than someone who has been through pregnancy to help you. If you are too scared to tell them to there face you could always write them a letter, this way you can say everything you want to say to them.
I don’t think I could ever go through something like abortion or adoption but it is everyone to their own so make sure you make your decision for you and your baby no one else. Something you all may find interesting a one of my favourite reality shows MTV’s Teen Mom and 16 and pregnant (www.mtv.com.au). You may also getter a better insight into just how tough it is to be a teen mum if you take a look at (http://ashleydsalazar.com) a diary of a teen mum very interesting and controversial.
I hope I have been of some help if you have anything you want to add please leave a comment. Stay posted for my next entry.
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ReplyDeleteI think this is a really good page for teens, it shows us how to handle situations sometimes that we don't feel comfortable talking about to anybody, its always good to hear someones advice that has already experienced this time.
keep going with the blogs, they are useful.
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Thanks Soph, it makes it all worth it to know my advice is useful.
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there are some great points and information you have summed up there Hayley! This is great information for teens, who are unsure of sex and some its consequences like unwanted pregnancy. This is great insight for teens who may be too embarressed to talk to their family about the topic.
ReplyDeletethe information is great. really points out don't think i would find some of this information else where! thanks hayley.
ReplyDeleteThanks Sarah,
ReplyDeleteglad to hear you like it:)
Thanks Tezz,
ReplyDeleteI hope that it helps teens out there can relate to my posts and find it helpful.